Christian dating and relationship books
Despite over a decade of prayer, a proper attitude toward the commitment and responsibility of marriage, and realistic expectations, it just hasn’t happened. But, at the same time, in this long season of singleness, I’ve had a lot of time to think and pray about these things.
I’ve wrestled with what I believe about dating, its purpose, and whether or not it’s good for me to date (with proper boundaries, of course!
In most aspects of modern life, God doesn’t provide cookie-cutter answers or formulas.
But be encouraged, though He may not always provide us with the direct plan, He always gives us everything we need to get where He wants us to go.
In biblical times, the process of meeting a spouse had very little to do with compatibility and personality traits, and everything to do with family lineage and economic status.
Finding a mate functioned a lot more like a bartering system than dinner and a movie.
), or if it’s better to wait until a man—my man— pursues me with the intention of marriage. I’ve realized by personal experience and by observing the dating (or non-dating) lives of the Christian adults around me that many of us are relationally stunted. We don’t know how to date, because we’ve never done it or we’ve never done it right. From the very first chapter, the authors set up the premise that they are, in some ways, addressing the “kiss dating good-bye” approach promoted just a couple years before was released in the year 2000.
It’s also hard, excruciating, joyful, hurtful, and incredibly fulfilling — at least this is what married people tell me, and from watching them, I believe it.by Henry Cloud and John Townsend, I jumped at the opportunity, hoping to be both challenged and affirmed. And I finished the book with confirmation that I’m on the right track.After all, I’m always game to glean additional information about healthy dating relationships for my future. But, to be honest, I also struggled to connect at times. I even wanted to throw the book out the window at one point, but hunkered down and kept on reading. Here’s the deal: Dating is a topic on which I have a whole lot of head knowledge, but no real practical experience.(On the other hand, don’t weird her out by talking about marriage on the first date.) I agree.
Male leadership wasn’t the result of the Fall, but of creation (as Genesis implies and Paul makes clear in 1 Timothy 2). Clean your act up today, not "when" The lie is that once you find the right girl, all your problems will go away—you just need the right motivation, right? If Jesus isn’t motivation enough to grow in maturity and pursue godliness, then you are not ready to pursue a woman. Joshua 1:8 says, “This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it.” Every man needs to realize that he will only be worth following if he follows God.The intentional man repeatedly and constantly goes first and takes on all of the risk of rejection.